A long-distance relationship is no time to be a challenge; it’s a time to keep your lady loving and missing you, and looking forward to seeing you again.
So, you or your girlfriend is relocating to another city for school or a new job, and you two are debating about whether you should break up, or try having a long-distance relationship.
Forgive my bluntness, but don’t even think about going through with a long-distance relationship, unless you are both extremely devoted to one another, and willing to make sacrifices for the relationship. If this doesn’t sound like you, then you should cut your losses now, and avoid a potentially heart-wrenching situation in the future…Trust me, i have been there.
If, on the other hand, you are both ready and willing to handle a relationship from afar, then read-on.
As hard as this may initially seem, it is imperative for you to relax and trust one another. In other words, don’t start assuming the worst just because your girlfriend/wife is making new friends, or going out more with her friends back home.
If you call and she isn’t there, don’t automatically think that it’s because some guy has come in and taken your place. If you don’t trust her enough to let her live her life without you by her side at every moment, then perhaps you should reread my introduction, and admit that you aren’t prepared to handle a long-distance relationship after all.
Of course, relocating to a new city will involve meeting new people and doing new things, but that doesn’t mean that your significant other should fall to the bottom of your list of priorities.
It is important to set aside time every day to phone, instant messaging platforms or e-mail each other, without any distractions. Tell each other details about your day, your friends, co-workers, etc., so that you both feel a part of the other person’s life; this seemingly small step will go a long way in reducing the distance between the two of you.
Make an effort to visit one another as often as possible, not only when it is expected, such as for holidays. Make sure that it isn’t always the same person who is going out of their way for the other, because this will inevitably lead to some serious resentment.
If you don’t put in the time and effort to see one another, then you will eventually drift apart, no matter how strong your love is. After all, you need some physical contact to keep a relationship going. *smiles profusely*
Be sure to organize your schedule so that when she does come to visit, you have nothing to do but spend quality time with her. Tell your friends and family that you are officially unavailable during the time that you and your (sweetie/ Shuga,/Swit) plan on being together.This will not only be enjoyable in itself, but it will also make her feel like her efforts were appreciated, and that she is truly loved.
love her madly
If you decide that you can cope with a long-distance relationship, there are a few key qualities you both must possess for it to really work, namely, loyalty, trust, respect, and love for one another. And I’m not talking about really liking the other person; I’m talking about the uncontrollable, inexplicable, blinding kind of love, which you will do almost anything to hold on to. If you’ve got that, but can also respect each other as individuals, then you can make it work.
ALL IZ WELL!!!